I got revenge on my mum after she scoffed at the name I picked for my baby’
An expectant mother has revealed how she decided not to name her baby after her mother because of her “controlling behaviour”.
The woman is pregnant with her second child and had already decided on her favourite name ahead of the little one’s arrival.
She had agreed to give the baby her mother’s name as a middle name, but when the woman told her mum the first name, she scoffed, letting out a judgemental sigh.
The soon-to-be mum was says she was offended by the reaction and as a result changed her mind on the middle name – leaving her mother furious at the decision.
Taking to Reddit, the woman posted: “I’m due any day with my second child and had my heart set on my baby’s name.
“The middle name is the same as my mother’s middle name and the first name is something I always liked and thought was cute. I’ve told my family this name before and that’s that.
“The other day, my mom had apparently forgotten what the first name was so I reminded her and she let out a judgmental ‘ugh’.
“I asked her what’s up and she said that she doesn’t like the name and thinks the kid will be made fun of for it. The name isn’t at all made up or even that unique. It’s a pretty average name.
“I got frustrated. Yesterday it came up again and she remembered that the middle name was gonna be the same as hers. But I told her I decided to change the middle name to something else, since she wanted to be judgmental and negative about the first name.
“She started crying and got pretty upset. Said that I just did that to hurt her.”
The woman shared the story on Reddit to seek advice, and added some background information on their relationship.
She said the mother was ‘extremely controlling’, and that she never had a say on her life when she was growing up. As such, she moved out as soon as possible.
The post continued: “Although her reaction to her grandchild’s name may seem minor, I know her. She reacts like that because she wants a different name, or to have some sort of influence over the name.
“She uses her judgment as a way to try and control me and my decisions. That’s why I get so angry.”
The post garnered much discussion online, with most people agreeing that both the women were in the wrong.
One user posted: “Sounds like mom is an a**hole in general but in this specific situation I’m gonna have to say everybody sucks here because you were both hurtful to each other.
“That being said I understand what you did and I probably would have done the same.”
And another posted: “Her reaction to the name was not only hurtful, but also calculated to pressure you to change the name into something she likes.
“That type of childish behaviour warrants a time-out, and you are right to reconsider the second name. I also would not want to honour someone who acts like that. They lost the privilege.”